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Dealing with grief is the biggest challenge for any human being. There are stages of grief depending on the situation. Whether it's the loss of a friend or a relationship or whether the grief is for someone’s death. Grieving will always depend on the person and how they deal with it. Grieving is often followed by confusion, anger, sadness, and denial and sometimes it will also relieve your stress and pain inside. Grieving is a process of emotions and comes with terms when it comes to reality. The process of grieving is always different, whether it’s a bad way or a good way, it always depends on the person and situation. Ruby Dhal in her book wrote about grief and how to deal with it, published in the name of ‘The Path of self-love’.
She wrote, “ How to deal with Grief”:
Grief can look like crying, watching movies, taking yourself some time like walking, expressing your pain to a friend or close relative, escaping from the situation for a few days, not speaking to anyone till your grieve is over, speaking to someone who knew the situation and with whom you can share your memories, engaging in self-care activities, like a spa, or some me-time, looking for environment change. These can work for people to come out from the pain you are in. Often we compare the grief with everyone and even listen to the healing journeys of others and feel uncomfortable, like thinking how have they come out from the grief so easily. But grief is not refusing the world and ending up in bed. Griefing is also not leaving the pain behind and going back to work, it is always different from one another and you should know your comfort.
There is also a way of coming out from pain like sharing experiences and memories,whether it is about a person or a thing or an animal. When you lose a dog, then after a few days, while you walk into the park where you used to take her every day, it will leave you in traumatic pain and to come through it you need to search for some alternative rather than standing there and suffering with grief. First of all, Self Love is the most beautiful healing of any. In childhood, we have grief and some children end up dealing with God like, I will go to bed on time, give me that, Make everyone happy in the family and I will do this for that. Even that is a grief and looking for alternative options. But that works in childhood and not in adulthood. So leave the puzzles and start looking for the options, where you can come out from grief.
