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As we race to progress, we often overlook the value of staying linked to our past. We abandon the memories and individuals who contributed to our development. Let's ask you: how many friends from your school days do you still communicate with? And we don't just mean having them on your Facebook or Instagram accounts. While some excel at maintaining connections with old friends, many struggle with it. This is not intentional; they genuinely want to relive those nostalgic chats or meet up for coffee, but somehow can never fit them into their current lives. Temporary friendships are extremely common and visible all around us. "I've encountered cases where people have had only temporary friendships and no long-term ones. Once, a patient was so disconnected from his school best friend that he couldn't recognize him when they met at a reunion," she says.
Temporary friendships are also transient or cyclical, much like the seasons. Just as each season has its own unique characteristics, each friendship has its own dynamics.
As we navigate through life, we often find ourselves forging new connections with people. This natural tendency to bond with those we interact with regularly can inadvertently lead to a decrease in our interactions with old friends. The physical distance and the hectic pace of our lives can make it challenging to maintain the same level of engagement with our long-standing relationships.
Sumalatha Vasudeva, a psychologist at Gleneagles BGS Hospital in Bengaluru, explains that this is a common occurrence. She says, "When people form close bonds with their current companions, the frequency of interactions with old friends tends to diminish. The dynamics of these friendships can shift, reflecting the new priorities that have taken precedence in their lives."
The experts attribute this phenomenon to various factors. The primary reason is the increasing responsibilities that come with growing older. As people's schedules become more demanding, the physical distance between them and their old friends can make it arduous to sustain regular contact. Additionally, personal interests and priorities often evolve over time, leading to a natural shift in the focus of our relationships.
Sustaining numerous friendships can be challenging. Peoples' lives often evolve, leading to shifts in their social networks. Career changes, marriage, and starting a family can reshape one's circle of friends. Some individuals may also desire to spend less time socializing, causing connections to gradually fade as the motivation to arrange get-togethers diminishes. Maintaining multiple relationships can be emotionally draining over the long term. Ultimately, the dynamics of friendships can transform as people's priorities and lifestyles change.
It should also be noted that the last decade has also seen changes in the way people communicate. Many people now prefer to communicate via social media rather than face-to-face contact. It is important to also consider the financial aspects. Two friends who met at school or university may not belong to the same social class and may have different spending skills. Experts also say that being consistently unable to maintain relationships could mean you need help and changing your habits. However, sometimes it is good to distance yourself from conflicting relationships and maintain inner peace.
Sumaratha Vasudeva says, “Social life is one of the strongest and surest paths to happiness.” There is something comforting about sharing your story with someone. An old friend has accompanied you through various phases and changes. They are more likely to accept you as you are. Old friends can provide a unique and deep level of emotional support during difficult times. Strong social connections reduce feelings of loneliness and isolation. Remember that every relationship is an investment. The longer this friendship lasts, the greater the investment.
How can we stay in touch?
- To maintain the relationship, set a reminder on your calendar to call her from time to time.
- Share your memories by posting old photos or remembering shared experiences.
- If possible, schedule face-to-face meetings, even once a year. Remember: face-to-face interactions strengthen bonds.
- Social media can also be helpful. Likes and comments on old friends' posts can help you connect.
- Please be honest. If you have any problems communicating, let us know. They will probably appreciate your honesty.
- Remember your friend's special occasion and celebrate it. A simple message or gift can show that you care.
- Make sure outreach is a mutual, two-way process. So if one friend doesn't call you, the other friend should call and keep you in touch.
- Expressing true love and caring for old friends can help maintain friendships. Show them that their support means a lot to you.
- Stay in touch with your loved ones.
