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Why do relationships fail? Why do people fear of falling in love? To get an answer, one must first admit that most of us are actually afraid of falling in love. There are many reasons about why people fear about falling in love. These fears show up in a many different ways at many different stages of relationships. The fears can be actually labeled as ‘defenses’ that we create for ourselves so that we do not have to hurt ourselves.  

Falling in love is a real risk

A new relation will obviously have fears about the unknown. Falling in love with this unknown person is definitely a real risk as we place a huge amount of trust and allow them to affect us. And it will be a definite heartbreak if your trust goes in vain. We also tend to believe that the more we care and expect from someone, the more we hurt. This could be the most possible reason behind the fear of falling in love.

Fear of parting from family

Relationships symbolize growth. When we start independent and enter into a relationship, it can lead to the loss of self identity and may even lead to move far from our family. In the process, we fear about losing yourself. And the parting with your family does not really mean you give up relations with them, but it goes on an emotional level. Like you may not feel like a kid anymore or you may not be able to spend enough time with them. These fears also make us to be at a distance from love and relationship.  

Commitment phobia

Few of us have this phobia of commitment. This is the most common problem in most relationship issues. Because of this fear of commitment, people generally repel from the relationship and love. Moreover, they develop negative ideas about being in a relationship and mark them as ‘happy lot’ for being alone.

Because of earlier heartbreak

If people had seen bad relations in the past or broken relationships with someone in their family, they tend to stay away from relationship and develop a fear towards love. This is the biggest fear for fearing to fall in love. Such people do not realize that a new relationship is different from the earlier one or different from what someone experienced it before. In a few cases, these fears could lead to extreme feelings like never trusting anyone in life again.

-Sumana