Promise Day 2019: Unrealistic Promises That You Need to Refrain from Making or Believing
February 11, 2019 12:07(Image source from: Freepik.com)
People, at one point or another, have made promises that would probably end up being impractical. We have all been there and done that for sure.
"It makes my heart sick when I remember all the good words and the broken promises," once said Chief Joseph and it is no less than gospel truth.
As today being celebrated as promise day, a part of the days which makes Valentine’s week, we are here with some of the unrealistic promises at least now you stop believing in.
"I Promise to Call You Every Day"
This one promise is particularly got those in long-distance relationships. Lovers who are separated by distance are connected by calls. However, in this era past-faced, multi-tasking and Facebook/WhatsApp/Instagram (Snapchat*) life, it is tempting to make promises such as "I will call you everyday baby or babu."
Believe this promise at your own risk. As an alternative, it is better to say that, "I promise to call you every day if you do that too!" This way, you can always share the blame.
"I Will Do Everything/Anything You Say"
Any relationship in the universe is completely based on trust. One should refrain themselves from making vague promises that included words like “everything” and “anything.”
Never believe if she or he says, "I promise to do everything/anything you tell me to do." It's better to make or take a specific and more realistic promise like, "I promise to do things you want me to or like, at least sometimes if not all the time." Keep in your mind that it's always better to promise less and deliver more rather than the other way round.
“I’ll Never Look at Other Girls/Guys”
Let’s be honest here - if a Victoria’s Secret Angel or Brad Pitt walked by, your partner would in all probability turn their head and look for a minute. And don’t lie to yourself - you know that you will now and then see a super attractive guy/a girl and won’t be able to stop yourself from letting your gaze for just a second too long.
Frankly, this is a promise that no man/woman could keep. It is just human nature to look when someone attractive walks by.
“My Closest Friend Is Nothing More Than a Friend”
In rare cases, this promise holds true, but most of the time, he/she who say this are stretching the truth a bit. Being close friends with the opposite gender without experiencing any attraction is rare. It’s only normal that you might develop a little crush on someone that you know so well. Someone who understands you, who always supports you, who has been your shoulder to cry on…
It’s totally natural to feel this way. But if he/she likes to gets into a relationship with their closest friend of the opposite gender, it can quickly complicate things.
"Promise to Love You Till My Last Breath"
We are in the age where you really don't know if you will even see the next sunrise, forget about eternity. Promising to love someone till your last breath or assuring to do that may end up incompetently.
It is always better to promise that you will try your best rather than declaring your love expiry-free of death.
Couples are supposed to make promises on promise day to each other, even if they do that all the time and keep breaking it. However, unlike other occasions, couples or lovers should only make only those promises which they can fulfill.
Make sure that a small promise made and fulfilled is better than multiple grand unfulfilled promises. As Robert Frost once said, "The woods are lovely, dark and deep. But I have promises to keep and miles to go before I sleep."
“I Will Never Judge You Whatever You Say”
This is simply untrue for any relationship. If you told your partner that you couldn’t stand his/her mom, never wanted to be around his/her family, and found his/her siblings embarrassing, we’re going to guess that they would judge those statements very negatively.
The truth is that no one is completely non-judgmental. Just because your boyfriend promises you this doesn’t mean you should speak about things that could easily hurt him. Have a little thoughtfulness and know when to hold back.
-Sowmya Sangam