After too many years of breakup( approx. 13 years)....when me and my ex talked on phone one month ago...first he said to me" bhul to nahin gaye mujhko....abhi bhi ham close hi hai na". lekin jab maine bola ki we r married with kids now...he started ignoring me. when i called him again for an urgent work..because we r relatives too. he said" jo hona tha ho gaya..ab bhool jaao sab kuch...now we r grown ups." I agreed and told him that i love his family and my family both...so i can't think abt any kind of relationship with him.....but now he refused to do any help regarding my urgent work indirectly..when i called him...it appeared that he was ignoring me. ...

I feel very insulted because 13 years ago i just wanted a pure friendship with him but he forcefully made physical relations with me..this is what which is very painful to me.He is enjoying his life happily and i m not able to attach myself with my hubby even after 8 years of marriage...i try but all in vain..physically too..i m not able to fully cooperate with my hubby. I m guilty of what happened 13 years ago. i still cry in alone..i can't forget anything.my situation is miserable....though i have promised to myself " chahe kuch bhi ho jaaye..i will never contact him now". but still i m not able to cope up with my situation.

I want that he should be punished for what he did to me 13 years back...i can't share all this to anyone. what should i do? but then in second thought i think that I should forget everything..and I should forgive him what he did. i m in depression..please suggest what should be my decision. please genuine suggestions only.